In my book I devote a chapter to becoming real. It is so difficult to do as an incest survivor. I have to try to get in touch with my feelings and check myself out from time to time. Often someone else helps with that - my husband is really good at helping me be real. I think asking myself the following questions also helps.
How do I feel right now? Sad. My son is going back home several hundred miles away.
How do I see myself today?I see myself as a tired woman. Exhausted from Christmas celebrations. Sore because of Rheumatoid arthritis. Perhaps having some post Christmas blues.
What do I like about myself today?I like that I am taking care of myself. I am tired and therefore, I am relaxing and taking it easy, rather than trying to push thru the fatigue. I am allowing myself to feel sad and not apologizing for it. Feelings are feelings. Neither good or bad.
How do I think or hope God sees me today? God sees me as a vulnerable child of his who is needing His love and comfort and healing.