I watched Oprah. She had on her show the actress Monique's brother (Monique was in the movie Precious which I have not seen yet). Monique said her brother had molested her when she was 7. Monique did not come on the show. I can understand why.
I found that the show depressed me. Upset me even. The brother, while admitting to the abuse, and stating that he had been abused also, just cannot understand why Monique had to make it public and why she called him a monster. After all, he said, they used to get along just fine.
Another brother could not understand her either. The parents wondered why she had to air the dirty laundry. They were struggling to understand. Obviously the whole family is hurting.
But they were in such a state of denial. They went on and on about what a close family they had been and why was Monique bringing it up now? They just didn't get it.
Monique has not seen her brother in a long time nor her parents in a few years. She did not want to come on the show with her family. Obviously she is struggling and hurting. But they do not see that. They see someone who has upset the apple cart.
I am beginning to wonder if anyone in this world really gets it. Does anyone out there who was not molested understand why we survivors spend years pretending everything is OK until finally we deal with it and all this hurt and pain and anger come out?
Why do they think we are called survivors?!?!? We have come through a world of hurt and we have done the best we could. We were little children, and we coped the best we could cope until we finally had to deal with this stuff inside our head and our hearts and that pain that keeps coming back now and again.
Child sexual abuse has been talked about a lot in recent years. A lot on Oprah that is for sure. Does anyone really listen?Does anyone really get it? Other than you and me. Anyone?