Just when you think people finally "get it," someone comes along and reminds you that you still have a long way to go.
I have this strong call to educate people on child sexual abuse and the long term effects of the abuse on the victim/survivor. And when I think a particular group is ready, I go for it.
To see them back up in fear, to see them shake their heads like I am out of line, to hear them quickly change the subject, only serves to hurt me and perpetuate the effects on me.
That feeling of not being heard.
That feeling of not being worthy enough.
That feeling of being dismissed.
Why do people keep doing that?
Supposedly smart people are ignorant when it comes to this subject. The worst part? They don't know it. To me, that is more dangerous than the ones who know they don't know.
For those who really care, not just with lip service, but know they do not know, please read this older post of mine on how to help a survivor. It may help you to help someone who hurts so much but never tells you.
For other survivors, if you have anything to add to this list, please let me know by commenting on this blog post!