Tuesday, June 28, 2011

I Am Never Going to Shut Up

I have been doing pretty well. I even survived Father's Day better than usual. 
But a few things happened recently that have started to trigger some feelings and I thought I better write.
What is it about writing that helps me? That helps so many of us who blog about this? A kind of purging perhaps?
I just know that the more often I tell my story, the better I feel. Perhaps each time I tell my story it is like a cleansing. Or maybe it is like finally saying No to all who say and have said I need to keep quiet.
We can only end sexual abuse of children by talking about it.
So why do some people still want us to shut up?
Let's get one thing clear - all of you who wish to ignore me - 
I am never going to shut up.

13 comments:

Patricia Singleton said...

I am right there with you. I am never going to shut up about child abuse or about incest. Too many children have been hurt. Too many adults are still hurting because of their own childhood abuse. Emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual - these are all areas that children have been abused. It has to stop.

Thanks for reading and commenting on my guest post over at SASSU earlier. Supporting each other as survivors is so important. None of us have to fight this battle alone.

Interruption said...

Thanks! I am glad you will never 'shut up'. I think writing does help. I had to keep secrets for so many years. Now I do not have to keep them any longer. You are so right. It is 'cleansing'. Thank you for sharing this.

Susan Deborah said...

Don't shut up. Period.

Joy always,
Susan

colleen said...

Yes never shut up! I have learned so much from you. How are the rest of us going to help stop this, and be sensitive to those poor kids still being victimized if people like you don't speak up? I even sent little note to Corapi on his announcement that the Statue of Limitations should never be enforced or applicable to child victims of abuse since, as you said, some take it to the grave, or to a very advanced age long after statue of limitations have passed. I had learned from you that the only way for a child to survive is to repress and pretend it didn't happen.

Colleen said...

Patricia, I so agree! People need to listen to us and stop casting us aside like we don't know what we are talking about. Thanks for your support.

Interruption, thank you for your comment and support. I agree - No more secrets!

Susan, thank you. :)

Colleen, you made my day. To know that I helped you to understand why we keep our secret for so long, just did my heart good. I needed that. Thank you. And you are right - we cannot shut up. We have to keep speaking out until everyone gets it, like you do. Thanks. God bless.

Cindy said...

You keep on talkin'!

Colleen said...

Cindy, thank you! :)

Pastor Sharon said...

Dear Colleen,
Good for you! Don't stop talking! I find it very cleansing to write and/or talk about it, when those memories come up for me.

Interestingly though, up until recently I have judged myself harshly for it. I do feel much better for allowing myself to be human about it.

You are doing a fabulous job! I am honored to be a part of your bloggy world as you continue to heal!

♥Hugs,
PS

Colleen said...

Thank you, Pastor Sharon!

Just Be Real said...

Hugs to you dear one. Blessings.

Colleen said...

JBR, thank you so much. Hugs back.

annette said...

Amen sista

Colleen said...

Annette, thanks!